While individuals can get along without sex indefinitely, SLAA members have learned that permanent cessation of all sexual activity, sometimes called sexual anorexia, is not healthy. However, unlike the program of Alcoholics Anonymous, which works to help its members stop drinking completely and permanently, the SLAA program of recovery is not about stopping all sexual and romantic behaviors forever. The structure of the program of recovery laid out for SLAA members is nearly identical to that of AA. The phrase 'in all our affairs' in Step 12 was changed to 'in all areas of our lives' for obvious reasons. Word 'Him' was changed to 'God' in Steps 3, 7, and 11 to be more gender-neutral and to make the non-religious intent more clear. The obvious changes were made from 'alcohol' to 'sex and love addiction' in Step 1 and 'alcoholics' to 'sex and love addicts' in Step 12. The 12 Steps and 12 Traditions of SLAA were borrowed with permission from the 12 Steps and 12 Traditions ofĪlcoholics Anonymous and needed to be adapted only slightly for SLAA. But other than structure and adherence to steps and traditions, there are substantial differences between the SLAA and AA programs of recovery. Is the original explanation of the 12-Step program of recovery. Just 'AA') has generously made their entire 'Big Book' SLAA acknowledges its roots in AAĪlcoholics Anonymous (more commonly known as 'A.A.' or from other sexual addiction fellowships which tend to be more focused on the sexual addiction alone. This is one of the factors which differentiates S.L.A.A. aims to address both sex and love addiction. Recovering love addicts often say that they did not have 'relationships' but, rather, that they 'took hostages'.īecause of these observations, S.L.A.A. Extreme emotional dependency can drive both men and women to controlling and even violently jealous criminal behavior. love addiction can be as malignant as sex addiction. believes that in many cases sexual acting-out is tightly bound to this dependent pseudo-love and that love addicts are often attracted to sex addicts with mutually destructive results. Often this form of dependency brings people to S.L.A.A. members believe that real, healthy love is a very different and much better state of being than the desperately clinging, emotional dependency. members refer to 'love addiction' they are generally talking about something which might be more accurately called 'romantic intrigue' or 'extreme emotional dependency'. As part of some addictive patterns, anorexia may follow periods of acting-out. Although acting-in behaviors can be destructive to family, self respect and career like acting-out, they are often harder to see.Īcting in behaviors include obsessive computer pornography or anorexia regarding relationships and self. There are a variety of ways sex and love addicts act in. The various forms can include love fantasy (gothic romance) or the use of intrigue and innuendo and other flirting behavior as a means of feelign more powerful and/or hiding from one's true feelings. It can also include being involved in long-distance affair and love romances, such as internet. Acting out can also include loving multiple partners, either at the same time, or serially, one after another.

These include but are certainly not limited to: prostitution, anonymous affairs, multiple affairs, compulsive masturbation or use of pornography.

There are a variety of ways sex and love addicts tend to act out. and that the untreated sex and love addict can cause considerable destruction to and even the death of friends, family, acquaintances, and strangers.that on the way to that ultimate end the untreated sex and love addict can experience humiliation, divorce, loss of job and home, destitution, unwanted pregnancies and abortions, imprisonment, and diseases both disfiguring and deadly.will ultimately result in insanity, death, or a worsening cycle of self-destructive acting out or acting-in behaviors.His further believes that sex and love addiction, if left untreated That too becomes an insufficient hit so that the addict then seeks more intensity. The addict then begins to crave, seek, and eventually find more intense sex and/or romance. As a program, His further believes that this illness of sex and love addiction is progressive, much like chemical addictions, the acting-out behaviors which used to satisfy a sex and love addict become insufficient. Subhrajit believes that sex and love addiction is an illness which cannot be cured but can be arrested. 3 COSLAA: help for family and friends of sex and love addicts.

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